five minute friday:: BREAK
Five Minute Friday is a community wherein a one-word prompt is announced over at Kate Motaung’s site and then whoever wants to write about it does. A free-write for five minutes flat: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.
Here is this week’s prompt:
Have you ever thought your marriage was at a breaking point? Like you weren’t quite sure whether you were on the verge of a major positive breakthrough or whether you were at a junction wherein you just might not make it? I know, I know. Christians aren’t supposed to think that way. We are supposed to really truly mean it when we vow “til death do us part.” We are in covenant, for God’s sake! This isn’t just some run-of-the-mill “typical” American marriage— when we stood in front of all our loved ones and made those solemn vows we really truly intended to do whatever it would take to see this thing through until one of us kicked the bucket.
So, yeah. I know all that. And I agree. I really do.
But… you know that part about “for better or for worse”? Some of those “worse” times have been sooooo much harder than I ever imagined they could be. And some of those hard times I thought I just might not make it through.
Thank You, God, for giving J and I both the patience and grace and wisdom and strength and courage and boldness to hash it out and barrel through. It is by Your grace alone, Lord.
And while I haven’t ever truly considered divorce– I’d rather hash out with J than any of the alternatives!– there have certainly been a bunch of times I thought “Wow… this sucks so much worse than I thought it would.” Or “Oh crap… I’m not sure how much more of this pain or this confusion or this sinful habit or this self-centeredness or this (fill in the blank) I can freakin’ handle!”
Marriage is tough, people. It’s high time I admit that.
P.S. I feel like I ought to add that J and I are currently doing fine… just reminiscing about some of the hard times… Don’t fear, y’all!
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What about you?
Have you ever wondered how you and your hubby would make it through? And are you ever amazed at God’s goodness when you find you actually ARE making it through– and will continue to do so?
Please feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comment section below.