Healing Friendship:: Lisa
When Lisa and her new husband moved across the street from me about 7-ish years ago, I had no idea how much she would change my life. I had no idea how much one person’s friendship could bless and heal up parts of me that had laid dormant for more than two decades.
Ahhh, Lisa… My sweet, sweet friend.
Lisa has been one of the biggest blessings of my entire life! Since Day One, her friendship has been so inspiring, so comfortable, so enjoyable… and so safe.
For the first time in my life, I have a friend with whom I can connect on every level that matters to me: she is a down-to-earth, honest, welcoming, brave, lover and follower of Jesus; she is strong, goal-oriented, and athletic; she’s a lover of big black dogs and the great outdoors; she is generous with both her time, her resources and her heart; she’s a doing-her-best, thoughtful, honest-about-her-flaws mom; and she is simply the kindest, most approachable, most trustworthy friend I have ever known. Plus, she’s just plain fun to be around! Her smile is sincere, her laugh is contagious— and I especially love how her eyes fill with tears whenever she’s having an especially delightful chuckle.
Lisa has blessed my life in more ways than I can ever count.
I never even realized how lonely I was before she came into my life.
You see, up until then, I had a couple rocky relationships that left me a bit raw and untrusting. During my young adulthood and early twenties, I had a few key friendships that basically left me feeling like perhaps I oughtn’t trust other women with my heart. Like perhaps I oughtn’t ever let myself get too vulnerable with other women again… because they can (and apparently often DO) use it against me later. In super harsh ways, too.
I’ll spare you the details.
The point of all this is this:
I can trust Lisa. I don’t have to monitor myself or sit in fear after I’ve been vulnerable with her. In fact, after seven years of experimenting with this, I now know without a doubt that I can vent all my garbage thoughts to her and not fear she’s going to hold it against me later on down the road.
I can just be me when I’m with her.
Lisa is my hiking buddy; my walking buddy; my trusted confidante; and my listening ear when I feel the need to “verbally process” for 45 minutes straight. She prays for, encourages, affirms and inspires me; challenges my thinking when I need it; and gives me grace when I’m a royal screw-up. I can rest when I’m with her— no need to impress, no need to pretend I’m anything I’m not.
Oh, how I love that girl!
Thank you, Jesus, for giving me such a great surprise gift in Lisa. I love how You work in ways like that— I love how You enjoy giving us what our hearts long for. Even when we aren’t even fully aware of what it is our hearts are longing for. Thank You that healthy community helps heal old “unhealthy community wounds.”
P.S. Check out another healing friendship in my life here.
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What about you?
What have your friendships been like over the course of your life? Have you found any particular super-special person to come alongside you and be a true friend?
Please feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comment section below.