31 Days:: Abby’s Hack-Job

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Day 13: Abby’s Hack-Job


When she was three— a few days before picture day at preschool, I tiptoed into the girls’ bedroom late at night to give them each one last kiss before I hit the sack myself and, not surprisingly, Abby was still awake.  (That girl is a night owl if ever there was one!)  With the faint light from the hallway illuminating the otherwise dark room, I saw a shine in Abby’s wide-open eyes as I leaned in to kiss her good night.  I smiled.  “You’re still awake, sweetie?” I asked.  “Yep,” she replied with as much energy as if it were the middle of the day.  “Well close your eyes and get some sleep, honey.”  “Okay, Mommy,” she said cheerily.  I leaned down to kiss her forehead and noticed something odd.  She had no more bangs.  What???  “Abby— did you… cut your hair???” I asked shakily.  “Yes mommy.”  Oh jeez.  “Come with me,” I commanded and took her into my bedroom so as not to wake her sleeping sister.  I turned on the light to survey the damage.  Wow.  What a hack-job.  To give you a picture of what she looked like, just know this: it is not possible to cut bangs closer to the skin than that girl cut them.  And a nice chunk taken right at the back of her head as well?  Awesome.  “Thanks for that, Abby,” I thought.  “Lucky you’re so darn cute with that couldn’t-be-more-perfect smile.”  Deep breath.  “Ah, well.  Looks like thick headbands are in our future for awhile,” I thought, and put her back to bed.

Ah, my curious, feisty, adventurous little Abigail.  Unlike me in so many ways.  Yet I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard she looks just like me.  A “mini me” they say.  Sometimes I see it in a look she gives— her expression will remind me of a photo of myself at her age.  And I see my independence in her.  I see my ease at meeting new people, my general lack of intimidation, and my sensitivity to hurtful comments.  And swimming was my sport of choice too.  Yet… mostly when I look at her?  I just see her.  She’s just… Abby.  Abby with the radiant smile.  Abby with the competitive, yet cautious nature.  Abby with a passion and ferocity that I lack.  She is courageous and bold, generous and forgiving, smart and self-motivating.  Oh— and, clearly: rash in her choices.

Moments like “Abby’s hack job” remind me of two things:  One: Life is messy.  Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, it changes on me and now I have to figure out how to deal with this new twist in Life’s adventure.  And two: It sure pays to go with the flow. 

Because seriously?  What’s a mom to do with such a horrible hairdo on her otherwise-adorable, still shiningly confident, 3-year old?  Obviously: hide the scissors and teach her to never do that again.  But beyond that— what’s a mom to do but just make the best of it and still help my little girl feel like the beautiful little angel-girl she truly is?

Gosh, I love that wild girl.


A few months BEFORE the hack-job
A few months BEFORE the hack-job


A few months AFTER the hack-job
A few months AFTER the hack-job





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