You are Enough: Dancing out a Prayer for My Girls

Last Friday night, Abby, Ben and I had a dance party in the kitchen while Ellie was nestled on her bed reading a book.  I was wearing ankle socks and my stinky workout clothes, the toddler had smoothie stains all over his Captain America shirt, and Abby was already showered up and in her pajamas for the night.  We were listening to the Taylor Swift Pandora station and dancing our little hearts out when all of a sudden Colbie Caillat’s song “Try” came on.  And I have to admit: even though I was cavorting around like a silly, carefree, crazy person with two thirds of my kids on a dirty kitchen floor— inside I was sobbing out a desperate prayer for God to make the lyrics of that song live and breathe its truth into the hearts of my children. 

You see, I have two preteen girls in my house right now.  Like most girls their age, they are trying to figure out who they are, what they really love and enjoy, and how to express that in this world.  And one of them is particularly struggling with trying to figure out her place in this world and how to “be herself” when she isn’t quite sure who “herself” even is.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of doing things, wearing things, and saying things for the sake of pleasing others in our midst.  Although we may know in our head that Beauty is a person who is comfortable in her own skin, free, and confident— it’s oftentimes hard to live out when we are surrounded by mean girls, cute boys, air-brushed stars and demanding scholastic guidelines.

So as my kids and I danced to “Try,” I tried with all of my being to force the truth of that song deep into Abby’s soul as I sang with her at the top of my lungs, held her hands and twirled her around.  And as I danced my way into Ellie’s room, grabbing her hands and singing to her, I tried to transfer the sincerity of that song into her, too— despite the fact that she was rolling her eyes at me in annoyance.

beautiful and enough

With all of my heart I want my daughters to know they are beautiful and enough.  I want them to know that God made them exactly who they are on purpose.  I want them to believe to the core of their beings that when He finished creating them, He breathed out a satisfied “This is good.”  I want them to find comfort and confidence in the simple act of being themselves.  I want peace for them.  I want the beauty of who they really are to shine through.  I don’t want them to feel paralyzed by insecurity, or try to measure up to anyone else’s expectations, regardless of how good-intentioned those expectations might be.

Quite simply: I want all three of my children to rest in the comfort of who they really are.  Who God created them to be.  They are beautiful, priceless treasures who don’t need to do a single thing to impress or gain anyone’s approval.  They are perfect.

Jesus, help me.  Help them.  Speak truth to us all.


(Lyrics from Colbie Caillat’s “Try”):
You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing
You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing

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What about you?

When has a song taken you by surprise and brought unexpected tears to your eyes and a throb in your soul?  In what areas do you find yourself trying to please others unnecessarily?

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  1. so beautifully said, kristi! your mama’s heart shines beautifully through your words!

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