Label = Verbal Processor

31 Days in My [Insert Label Here] Skin:

[ Verbal Processor ]


“I would have written you a longer letter, but I did not have the time.” ~Blaise Pascal


I’m a verbal processor.  It’s annoying.  I am so very aware of this particular characteristic, in fact, that I tend to purposefully hold back and try to not even begin to share in group situations sometimes because I know myself: sometimes once I get going I just can’t seem to shut up.  And I know that’s not fair in a group discussion situation – no one likes it when one person selfishly dominates the whole conversation.  So it’s definitely something I am always trying to be mindful of, always is trying to limit myself, and, more importantly, make space for others to share.

I do let myself go unfiltered when I’m with a few people, though.  These poor souls are a few of my “safe people” that I have recently let loose on and monologued for several minutes at a time: my best friend Lisa.  My dear friends Kassandra and Diane.  My husband.  My mom.  These are the ones who have recently had the privilege – or lack there of? – to be present when I verbally processed one particular recent struggle I was going through.

Honestly, the reason I do this blog (or journaling in general) is to save the ears of some of the people I love the most.  I find that if I process my heart in writing, I may be able to be a little more efficient when I’m talking with my loved ones.

It has always been easier for me to use more words to describe something than less.  It is easier for me to write a longer blog post or letter or research paper than something shorter.  Likewise, if I’ve been invited to speak somewhere, it’s always easier for me to fill up an hour rather than 35 minutes. Or to fill up 35 minutes rather than 10.  “Words are not my problem” as Holly Wagner once said.

So for those of you who have ever read a blog post of mine and thought it was succinct or efficient in any way– praise God!!!  That took A LOT of work for me!!!  And for those of you who ever get a bit (or a lot) annoyed when I am jabbering on and on about something when we are hanging out– I’m sorry!  Please feel free to interrupt me or remind me to wrap it up at some point. 🙂


I love you and I’m working on it.


Have a great day. 🙂

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What about you?

How do you like to think through all your thoughts and emotions?  Are you an internal or external/verbal processor?  Do you ever get annoyed by your own wiring?

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